To all the single ladies, the holidays are upon us once more. Christmas is just around the corner and New Years is close behind. Same time as last year and same relationship status. Or maybe this is your first holiday single in a while and you forgot how to navigate this rodeo. Do not fear, your single guide is here!
Wine & Chocolate.
Need I say anymore? Seriously, just shut the curtains and put on a sappy movie and treat Christmas like Valentines day! Okay, I’m kidding. Well, I’m kind of kidding anyways. Lets face it, not having any family around can bring you down into the dumps. BUT, and yes there is a but here- you don’t have to let it!
Create new traditions
This year for Thanksgiving after I got off work, I went and bought some Christmas lights and a small fake tree. I went home, threw on my Pandora Christmas station and while my turkey was cooking, I cleaned my house and decorated. I got sad here and there throughout my day, but I actually had a nice Thanksgiving ALL BY MYSELF. It can be done. And next year on Thanksgiving? I am going to decorate my house and listen to Christmas music while I cook my food. I created a tradition for myself. Now go do one for YOU.
Carry on a family tradition
When I was growing up, my Mom decided that she didn’t want to cook two turkeys back to back. So for Christmas she made lasagna. (Italian girl here.) Since then we have had lasagna every Christmas. And I have carried that family tradition every chance I have had. I’ll make it for myself this year also.
Another fun childhood memory- going to look at Christmas lights. I remember as a family, getting into our old Toyota hatch back driving around looking at the beautiful Christmas lights. I haven’t done it in years, so this year I will be changing that.
All the single people.
And even the paired up people. Did you move to a new city, away from family? Do you have friends who are ‘taken’, but no family either? So why not have an informal Christmas at your house? Invite over your friends, single and not single and create wonderful memories together. Having friends around can help greatly with the lonely factor. Just don’t forget to call your family on Christmas day 😉
Host a gift exchange.
One of my friends is actually doing this, and of course I joined in. Christmas as an adult isn’t all about the presents like when we were kids, but who doesn’t love to open a gift or two?
Helping others just makes you feel good. Plain and simple.
Pay it forward.
Not only a wonderful movie, but an awesome thing to do too. When I have the extra money, I enjoy buying the cup of coffee behind my at my favorite coffee shop. It reminds me of how blessed I am, and I enjoy the simple pleasure of treating somebody else. Even if I don’t know them.
On that same not, grab a name off the Christmas tree at your local Barnes & Noble or other retail place. Again, buying something for someone else just makes you feel good. And the Holidays are kind of about giving to others. Plus- kids toys these days are just way cooler than when I was growing up. So buy yourself a cool kids toy too 😉
Invite your girls over, or curl up on the couch by yourself. Either way, devote an evening to you and your inner child. Rent the classics, pop some popcorn and enjoy not having to share the remote. It won’t be just you and Ben & Jerry forever. Enjoy it while it lasts. P.S. Don’t forget the super comfy and super dorky PJ’s.
Go on a date, with you!
Get dressed up, and go hit the town. Being single is a time when you can go have fun! So go have fun. Get to know you. Buy yourself that cocktail and enjoy being with you. Though I am sure your sexy self won’t be alone too long.
Go see that movie that just came out, that you have been dying to see. Grab a bucket of popcorn for dinner (Yes, I have done this.) sneak in some chocolate/candy, grab a soda and ENJOY!
Take a vacation!
Live in a cold area? Go to the beach, somewhere. Take a singles cruise though maybe grab another friend for this one. Cruising on your own is usually more expensive than going with a friend. Go catch some golden rays and forget about your relationship status. Traveling is one of my favorite things to do. Which reminds me, I need to start planning my next vacation!
There is something about online shopping, almost like Christmas morning, when that package arrives on your front door. Sure, you know what you ordered, but opening that package brings joy. Ahh yes, shopping. I adore Amazon- Sephora- Too Faced-
I don’t shop online for clothes as much, for fear of something not fitting right. However, when it comes to all my beanies, they have come from Zumiez.
At the end of the day, the Holidays are going to come, and they are going to go. It is up to YOU with how you handle the next month or so. But, I promise you, it can be done with a happy heart. Again, you aren’t going to be single forever…even if it does feel that way. So ENJOY the now. Enjoy the SINGLE. Enjoy the mishaps and hick-ups. For one day, those will be some of your BEST memories.
Question of the week- what do YOU do to get through the Holidays? I would love to hear about it in the comments below. Until next week-
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